Welcome to all!

Summertime is such a great time for romance. In fact, I’ve picked the movie, Summertime, for this month’s review. It’s about a summer romance in Italy. Perhaps you’ve never even heard about this movie. Read the review of it below and you'll want to see the movie.

I’ve also picked an article by David DeAngelo, who I admire for his ability to write in a fun way about attraction. Sometimes we act as if attraction is something magical and that we have to wait for it to happen. But as Internet Daters we know that we can take some actions ourselves and make things happen quicker. Attraction, too, is something that we can take action with. And, as far as I’m concerned, nobody does a better job of explaining attraction than David DeAngelo. Enjoy his article and his website.

By the way, have you seen the movie, “Must Love Dogs,” with John Cusack? Or the TV series, “Hooking Up?” They are both about dating and online dating. I trust that you saw Will Smith’s movie, “Hitch?” These are all great entertainment. Check them out.

Enjoy the issue.

Be sure to check out the reviews below of a couple of the best dating services on the internet, Yahoo Personals.com and CherryBlossoms.com. Internet dating is one of the best ways for busy singles to safely meet and to get to know each other.

Enjoy the following features of The Dating Advisor and keep your spirits high!

In This Issue

1) Favorite Dating Service Reviews
2) Romantic Movie--Summertime
3) Find a Unique Gift at PerfumeEmporium.com
4) Article--Great Conversation Topics For Dates
5) Love Poem--Song: To Celia by Ben Jonson
6) Love Song--My Cherie Amour by Stevie Wonder

1) Favorite Dating Service Reviews

Yahoo Personals.com
The Yahoo! website is one of the most frequently used websites on the entire internet, so not surprisingly, the YahooPersonals dating service is one of the most frequently used dating sites. The membership is huge! You’ll notice that when you do a search for profiles of eligible singles in your immediate geographical area that you will receive more results than with any other dating service. No wonder YahooPersonals website title is, "Discover great singles near you." And if you don’t live in the U.S., don’t worry. YahooPersonals has their site interfaced for about 9 different countries and 6 different languages. Take a free Tour of their site, a wonderful flash presentation, and then start searching for a friend, a date, a relationship, and more.

Membership

One of the key features that makes Yahoo Personals so successful is the personal profile which you can create for free. It will take you a little more time to create than most because it encompasses about 5 pages and over 60 important areas. There are numerous articles on the site to help you create, revise, and refine your profile so that it will get maximum exposure and results. You’ll see how accurate the search results are if you have taken care with your profile. Then send an Icebreaker to someone nice, or to several nice someones. That will get the ball rolling and the interest flowing, and soon you’ll be quite busy with chats and emails. As one happy member put it, "Conversation is so easy time flies. We have fun together no matter what we’re doing."

Review continues Click Here.

CherryBlossoms.com
The motto for Cherry Blossoms is, "Helping Love Blossom Since 1974.” For over 30 years now Cherry Blossoms has been publishing picture ads and personals of women in Asia, South America, Russia, and Europe, and since 1974 they boast of having brought over 50,000 men and women together in romance and marriage. The Cherry Blossom site has been on the web for nine years now and has been successful in bringing couples together in nearly 2000 marriages in 2004. Their goal for 2005 is to bring people together in over 2000 marriages, an average of about 6 marriages per day.

Cherry Blossoms supports their goal of bringing people together by offering Romance Tours. They arrange tours to numerous cities in Asia and South America and will custom design a tour for you for a very reasonable price. Additionally, Cherry Blossoms offers an immigration service with over 30 years of experience to help you bring home your chosen match. Immigration is not as easy as you may think, and the service offered by Cherry Blossoms is tremendous.

Membership

Your guest membership will allow you to sign on and search among the active membership and personals for members who interest you. There are over 10,000 women’s personal ads online at any given time so have fun searching. You’ll be amazed at how many great single women are available and looking for a single man such as yourself. The personal ads are complete with photos. Enjoy the ads and photos and when you have found several women who seem to be the type you are looking for, you will want to upgrade your membership and begin to send email to your chosen members. Review continues Click Here.

2) Summertime Movie Review

Summertime is a wonderful old movie, by David Lean, about a simple but lonely American tourist, Kathryn Hepburn, who takes a chance on a summertime romance in Venice with a hunky, but married, man, played by Rosanno Brazzi. The film was made in Venice and richly photographed. All of the elements for a memorable movie, actors, love story, scenery, and dialogue, are here.

Perhaps you’ve never seen the movie. I’m sure you must be a fan of Kathryn Hepburn, so take my advice. Find this movie and view it with someone special.

Here's a review by Amazon.com editor, Robert Abele.

"There was a time before Lawrence of Arabia and Doctor Zhivago when David Lean made smaller, more effortlessly picturesque movies, and this splendid Venetian travelogue and love story is one of them--the last, actually, before the epic onslaught started with the Oscar-winning The Bridge on the River Kwai in 1957. "Sometimes I think a schedule in Venice is just, well, all wrong," observes a bewitched tourist to Katharine Hepburn's vacationing spinster near the beginning of Summertime, which is based on Arthur Laurents's play The Time of the Cuckoo. Before the end, however, Jane will have thrown her idealized romantic notions into the canals and embarked on a passionate affair with a married art dealer (Rossano Brazzi). More blissful than Lean's adulterous fable Brief Encounter 10 years prior, but not entirely guilt- or pain-free, this deceptively simple romance is an often-fascinating glimpse at a time when sexual revolution for Americans--and especially middle-aged women--was confined to fanciful European trysts. Plus, with all the architecture, art, Italian conversation, music, and fine cuisine around you (all richly photographed on location by Jack Hildyard), who's to pish-posh a furtive all-nighter between one repressive country and a free-loving one? The two leads are graceful and even musical in their movements and line deliveries. Hepburn's initial outrage at the idea that illicit love is part of her impossibly beautiful surroundings may at first seem outdated, but the Academy Award-winning actress is too good not to suggest as well the poignant, deep fear her character has of opening up emotionally to anybody. Ultimately, Summertime is the movie equivalent of a deep, satisfying sigh. --Robert Abele."

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You'll find a large selection of Women's and Men's fragrances and bath sets. Unsure what to get? The many Fragrance Tips will help you decide. You can search by favorite designer. Also available are Skin Care products, Jewelry, Candles, and Greeting Cards.
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4) Great Conversation Topics For Dates by David DeAngelo

"Dave,

In one of the newsletters I received a couple weeks ago you gave the advice to someone to learn 'what topics fascinate women.' I found this newsletter specifically interesting because I’ve found myself in this same situation were when I’m on a date things get quiet and I cant find anything to say. I know you have already recommended a good book on comedy, "comedy writing secrets," but what is a good book explaining how to tell stories? And, what are some topics that fascinate women? Any help would be greatly appreciated.

M.G. Gainesville, FL.

>>>MY COMMENTS:

This is a great question.

There are really two very different (and important) aspects to the "conversations with women" topic:

1. The HOW.

2. The WHAT.

THE HOW

Most guys want to know "what to talk about" with women.

It only makes sense that you should talk about things that women are interested in... right?

Well... partially.

It is actually FAR MORE IMPORTANT to talk about whatever topic you're talking about in the RIGHT WAY.

In other words, if you don't understand HOW to carry on a conversation that creates ATTRACTION, then it really won't matter WHAT you talk about... because the woman you're talking to won't FEEL anything towards you.

The HOW of conversation includes (but is not limited to):

-Your body language -Eye contact -The Cocky & Funny style of communicating -Flirting -Sending mixed messages -Directing the conversation -Dealing with common questions and topics

...and many other things.

My point is that if you're running into a lot of "uncomfortable silences", nervousness, and other usual challenges, then you probably need to get the HOW handled before the WHAT.

THE WHAT

With that said, there are several topics that are GREAT to discuss with women.

But instead of just giving them to you, I want you to do yourself a favor and THINK for a minute.

What topics do women PAY to hear about?

Hint: Cosmo magazine, romance novels, soap operas, nighttime dramas, the fashion channel...etc.

If you think about it, the answer to this question is rather obvious.

For whatever reason, WOMEN tend to LOVE:

-Drama -Conflict -Romance -Famous people and their lives

So... it's really quite easy to enjoy a conversation with a woman about these topics.

Here are a few ideas:

1. Play amateur psychologist to the stars.

Talk about how someone famous is doing something really stupid, then psycho-analyze them.

Actors, rock stars and famous sports figures just LOVE to do crazy things... cheat on their spouses... and then say "I didn't do it".

These situations are BEGGING to be picked apart with a fine-toothed, critical, funny, sarcastic mind.

2. Find an interesting-looking group of people and guess what's going on.

Look around you, and find a couple sitting at a table that looks like they're on their first date.

Then start making fun of how the guy is acting, how he's dressed, his posture, or whatever. Talk about how the woman is thinking that he's a dork and how he's not getting any, no matter how many compliments he gives her.

Analyzing what's going on with a close group of others is big fun, and women love it.

3. Make fun of someone famous.

Talk about how a super model is too skinny, or how Ben Affleck can only date women named Jennifer.

All you have to do is read a few gossip magazines to get all kinds of great stuff to make fun of.

It's fun, it's funny, and it's a great way to talk like you're all that.

4. Talk about other people's love lives.

Talk about the problems that others are going through when it comes to love and romance, then volunteer completely ridiculous theories about what's going on.

Mention a friend you had who broke up with his girlfriend because she gained weight, then after you've told the story, make up a random theory about how women who gain weight are actually lesbians.

But make sure it's funny, whatever you invent.

...I think you can "feel me".

The point here is that women are NATURALLY fascinated and drawn to certain topics... so USE THEM.

The REAL benefit of talking to women about topics that really interest them is that you can USE ALL THE OTHER IDEAS THAT YOU'RE LEARNING while you're talking!

You can AMPLIFY THE ATTRACTION as the conversation goes on... as long as you know what else to do as you talk.

Oh, by the way...

Topics to avoid: Rape, kidnapping, stalking, death, chess, computers, comic books, Star Wars and your secret love for wrestling.

NEVER talk about topics that might really freak a woman out, or topics that make you look like the biggest loser alive, especially in the beginning.

You'll create BAD VIBES that will make any attraction that you've created INSTANTLY disappear.

Others to really avoid include talking negatively about yourself, talking about how desperate you are or how long it's been since you've been on a date, asking if she likes you or if you're her "type"... and any other WUSS-BAG topic that makes you look insecure and needy.

Remember, the key to success with women is creating a powerful emotional ATTRACTION between you and her.

If you don't know how to do this, then NOTHING you do is going to help you very much.

If you DO know how and why women feel ATTRACTION for men, then almost ANYTHING you do or talk about can amplify it."

5) Song: To Celia by Ben Jonson

Love poems have the power to inspire us and to warm our hearts. We should take a few minutes each day to recall an inspirational line or stanza.

Song: To Celia

Drink to me, only with thine eyes
And I will pledge with mine;
Or leave a kiss but in the cup,
And I'll not look for wine.
The thirst that from the soul doth rise
Doth ask a drink divine:
But might I of Jove's nectar sup
I would not change for thine.

I sent thee late a rosy wreath,
Not so much honouring thee
As giving it a hope that there
It could not withered be
But thou thereon didst only breath
And sent'st it back to me:
Since, when it grows and smells, I swear,
Not of itself but thee.

This is such a fascinating poem. Of course, there is the classic opening line, "Drink to me, only with thine eyes." But what I find more fascinating is that this poem is an example of plagiarism.

Jonson's poem is a reworking of numerous lines written by the Greek, Philostratus. Of course, Greek writing was never in copywright. But compare Jonson's lines with those of Philostatus and you'll see exactly where the lines and the idea came from.

Ben Jonson got away with it nicely.

Read interesting notes about the backstory of Song: To Celia.

6) Love Song: My Cherie Amour
by Stevie Wonder

Stevie Wonder has such an interesting voice, don't you think?

He wrote this love song for his girlfriend, Marcia and originally titled it, "Oh, My Marcia." I'm glad he changed the title.

My Cherie Amour

La la la la la la, La la la la la la

My cherie amour, lovely as a summer day
My cherie amour, distant as the milky way
My cherie amour, pretty little one that I adore
You're the only girl my heart beats for
How I wish that you were mine

In a cafe or sometimes on a crowded street
I've been near you, but you never noticed me
My cherie amour, won't you tell me how could you ignore
That behind that little smile I wore
How I wish that you were mine

La la la la la la, La la la la la la
La la la la la la, La la la la la la

Maybe someday, you'll see my face among the crowd
Maybe someday, I'll share your little distant cloud
Oh, cherie amour, pretty little one that I adore
You're the only girl my heart beats for
How I wish that you were mine

La la la la la la, La la la la la la
La la la la la la, La la la la la la

That's all for now.

Make it a great week.